Keeping your relationship or marriage in its pace

As we all know, it takes effort to protect a relationship due to the work schedules, children and other obligations. Sometimes, it seems impossible to maintain the relationship to the point that when problem arises, some couples see divorce a better option, while some others prefer to work on the relationship.

Here are proactive measures to take to improve Communication, romance and love in a relationship or marriage:

APPRECIATE YOUR PARTNER

This is expected from both parties in a relationship or marriage; we know people inevitably change overtime, so adapting to these changes, understanding and appreciating your partner is a critical thing to do in any relationship. You should make a list of your partner’s best qualities i.e things that makes them special to you and this will help to remind you of the wonderful person you are married to or about to spend the rest of your life with. NOTE: Let your partner know you appreciate all they do, through compliments and thank you (s). Love your partner for who they are.

LIVE ALONGSIDE A BUDGET

We all want a comfortable and happy home, buh frankly speaking not everyone can afford it. To be strong I’m a relationship, we should share our financial situations and picture wat the future will look like. Agree on a budget and make plans to live within the limits.

It is also important to differentiate between needs and wants, although both are legitimate, but couples can face problem, if they try to fulfill all their wants without considering their budget. This is why it is necessary to incorporate some flexibilities in your budget i.e miscellaneous, to allow for date nights, gifts, vacation and other romantic activities.

FACE-TO-FACE INTERACTION

In this age of smartphones, Netflix, video calling, work from home lifestyle and the likes. It is easy to get distracted, you will then realize that you often go days without having a real conversation with your spouse or fiance. Whereas, Communicating openly about your life, dreams, feelings and aspirations is an important way to foster intimacy in a relationship.

It is also crucial that you listen to your partner, expressing themselves verbally. It would be helpful to set aside atleast 30minutes free from interruption or distraction, each day- to talk to each other.

JOIN FRIENDS TO HANGOUT

One of the hardest things to balance in a relationship, is the right amount of time to spend together. Too much time spent together can be choking and too little time can be interpreted as inattentive or nonchalancy. When your partner needs space or a hangout with friends, you should be in support of it to ensure that they enjoy the little time spent outside. The key is that you both spend quality time together while also allowing each other the space of having outside fun.

HAVE DATE NIGHT OR HANGOUT

An easy way to rekindle romance, is to think back to those days of dating and keep the flame burning. Try to make time for a date night every week- even if it’s just to get ice cream or cook a new recipe together. A marriage progress, if you continue doing the things you do while you were dating. Put a smile on your partner’s face by doing romantic activities like making them coffee in the morning, breakfast in bed or jus buy their favorite snack.

FORGIVE QUICKLY

Holding grudges falls apart a relationship or marriage. Try to forgive your partner as soon as possible. Infact grudges deals with the mental and emotional state of one’s health and this increases the level of stress in that person. Also, if you wrong your partner, put your pride down and sincerely ask for forgiveness and try to understand why they are upset so you can work towards doing things differently in the future.