FUO mass communication department has organized a hangout programme as regard a group project in their event management class, on 17tg August 2021.
The programme took place in the university garden with the presence of the 400level student and the lecturers of the department, engaging the students to share their experience so far in the university (the good days and the bad days) and also, the lecturers dashing out advices to the student, about some circumstances they are likely to face outside school (after school) and how to beat some of this circumstances.
Cross section of the 400l students.
The Lecturers in the department made the students to realize that all the challenges faced by them are part of the life experience every student is likely to pass through, and this will make them to be able to easily blend into the society after school. The Lecturers also pleaded with the student to make judicious use of the knowledge gained in the school and make them proud of themselves and also the university.
The HOD addressing his students.
Mr Kamorudeen Salaudeen rounded the programme up, as he gave the students some words of encouragement and also implored them to strive hard and not to divert from their field if study. He also wished them the best as they step into a new phase of life ………
Cultural traditions has affected relationship between men and women. However, majority scholars agree that women are not obligated to serve their husbands, do house chores or any kind of work at home. Whoever said that the way to a man’s heart is this stomach also forgot to add that it is not the job of a woman to cook. We believe that a real woman has to be a good chef, although it isn’t completely wrong but today, there’s a deviation from those previous beliefs. Women now embrace their own independence and are choosing to support themselves. What women dislike is the sense of entitlement, entrusted to them, that it is the right to do so. Yes, women should be handy in the kitchen, not because they are women and not because she has an obligation to feed her husband but because she has to take care of herself and be a good role model to her kids.
Cooking is one of the so-called pre-dominant feminine qualities
Cooking is an art and it’s not un- masculine. Give your wife the morale to do better other than cooking and cleaning the house. Irrespective of your gender, if you are reading this, you surely would know one working woman who cooks for her family, you would know one housewife who is criticised for not being “up to the mark” or one newly married bride whose husband fights with her everyday because she cannot cook. Hiring a maid to do the chores is really not a bad idea, but people have different ideology towards this maid or house-help thing. Where did the phrase, women belong to the kitchen came from. It’s origin is thought to be the Greek playwright Aeschylus, who decreed back in 467 B.C, ” LET WOMEN STAY AT HOME AND HOLD THEIR PEACE” since then the phrase as been twerked by many feminist. Women also derive happiness– watching the man of their life, cooking for them, and a guy who knows how to cook is really handsome. A man who cooks is attractive and a man who does the dishes is irresistible. Men are actually the best cook, because a man fills a woman’s tummy for 9 months with 2 eggs, 1 sausage and a little bit of milk.
Men should always have in mind that , your wife is not your maid she’s your partner and partners work hand-in-hand. Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W) used to cook, clean and take trash out of the house, so who are you to take your wife as a maid. Women really tends to be more intelligent than men, women actually successful multi-task, in the sense that she is successful and still builds a good home because a good home is said to be built by the wife.
Using NGOZI OKONJO IWEALA as a case study
The first woman and first African to lead the WORLD TRADE ORGANIZATION (WTO) as a Director General
NGOZI is a Nigerian-American economist, a fair trade leader, a sustainable finance waven and global development expert. She is happily married with kids and still achieving great things. If a woman can be this successful, men should also encourage their wives by involving their wives in social outings and team meetings, after the meeting, engage them, ask them questions, know her capabilities, stop letting women feel inferior in this society, women also look beautiful when they succeed.
Moreover, this role assignment has led to the belief that women are better mothers than men are fathers ,no doubts; men are expected to be the provider of family, while the mothers are expected to be more of caretakers of home and family, and It is the actually the pride of a man, if he sees his woman doing great things in the society, so why not encouraging our women in becoming reputable people in life.
As we all know, it takes effort to protect a relationship due to the work schedules, children and other obligations. Sometimes, it seems impossible to maintain the relationship to the point that when problem arises, some couples see divorce a better option, while some others prefer to work on the relationship.
Here are proactive measures to take to improve Communication, romance and love in a relationship or marriage:
APPRECIATE YOUR PARTNER
This is expected from both parties in a relationship or marriage; we know people inevitably change overtime, so adapting to these changes, understanding and appreciating your partner is a critical thing to do in any relationship. You should make a list of your partner’s best qualities i.e things that makes them special to you and this will help to remind you of the wonderful person you are married to or about to spend the rest of your life with. NOTE: Let your partner know you appreciate all they do, through compliments and thank you (s). Love your partner for who they are.
LIVE ALONGSIDE A BUDGET
We all want a comfortable and happy home, buh frankly speaking not everyone can afford it. To be strong I’m a relationship, we should share our financial situations and picture wat the future will look like. Agree on a budget and make plans to live within the limits.
It is also important to differentiate between needs and wants, although both are legitimate, but couples can face problem, if they try to fulfill all their wants without considering their budget. This is why it is necessary to incorporate some flexibilities in your budget i.e miscellaneous, to allow for date nights, gifts, vacation and other romantic activities.
FACE-TO-FACE INTERACTION
In this age of smartphones, Netflix, video calling, work from home lifestyle and the likes. It is easy to get distracted, you will then realize that you often go days without having a real conversation with your spouse or fiance. Whereas, Communicating openly about your life, dreams, feelings and aspirations is an important way to foster intimacy in a relationship.
It is also crucial that you listen to your partner, expressing themselves verbally. It would be helpful to set aside atleast 30minutes free from interruption or distraction, each day- to talk to each other.
JOIN FRIENDS TO HANGOUT
One of the hardest things to balance in a relationship, is the right amount of time to spend together. Too much time spent together can be choking and too little time can be interpreted as inattentive or nonchalancy. When your partner needs space or a hangout with friends, you should be in support of it to ensure that they enjoy the little time spent outside. The key is that you both spend quality time together while also allowing each other the space of having outside fun.
HAVE DATE NIGHT OR HANGOUT
An easy way to rekindle romance, is to think back to those days of dating and keep the flame burning. Try to make time for a date night every week- even if it’s just to get ice cream or cook a new recipe together. A marriage progress, if you continue doing the things you do while you were dating. Put a smile on your partner’s face by doing romantic activities like making them coffee in the morning, breakfast in bed or jus buy their favorite snack.
FORGIVE QUICKLY
Holding grudges falls apart a relationship or marriage. Try to forgive your partner as soon as possible. Infact grudges deals with the mental and emotional state of one’s health and this increases the level of stress in that person. Also, if you wrong your partner, put your pride down and sincerely ask for forgiveness and try to understand why they are upset so you can work towards doing things differently in the future.
I’ll be educating you guys on how we can strengthen our marital life and what marriage entails, and also how to fix some marital issues and relative issues…………
Let me start today by letting you know the essentials of marriage;
Firstly,the connection between you and your partner must be strong enough and this will serve as a foundation upon which other elements will be built. In a situation whereby the husband and wife are not very intimate or close, they both are risking things, which they might eventually regret, the moment kids start to come into the picture. The need to seek the help of professional would be needed inorder to avoid loosing something important in that marriage. This intimacy is not only limited to marriage, however, it should be experienced within the context of a parent-child relationship or strong-siblings relationship.
Also, the desire to marry should not be based on just this intimacy between you and your partner, I believe, it should be based on commitment. Commitment seem to me as the act of choosing a partner for life. This implies for your total loyalty to your partner, ensuring trust which strengthen the marriage so much. This commitment also implies an unconditional acceptance of your partner (flaws and perfection). Though, men have the highest tendency to not stay committed because of some pride and ego they possess naturally, your commitment shows your level of self-esteem .Even in cases of “what you order vs what you get” You still have to be loyal except the marriage is a violent one, then a divorce will be advisable
Moreover, Giving is not often paid attention to, yet I think it is an important way to grease one’s marriage, When you exchange gifts and present on ordinary days not special occasions like birthdays and anniversaries. Exchanging gifts is also a way of expressing love to your partner. This also is very essential in building a marriage.
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